What I've Learned in 2020
I’ve been dreading writing my yearly recap, year in review type of post.
Post imagery by Brittany Mahood
I know a lot of good things have happened in 2020 and I am so grateful that I was able to be a part of the weddings that did go ahead, but with the way the virus has overwhelmed Manitoba this fall, it’s feeling harder and harder to focus on that light.
Then something happened.
The vast majority of my industry was denied access to the Manitoba Bridge Grant even though we are small businesses that were forced to shut down.
There are a lot of semantics involved, but in mid-November when the Bridge Grant applications opened, we realized that by and large, we were not eligible. The reason is because we don’t have retail storefronts — and most of us do not require any sort of retail space to do our work, and to do it well.
So I got angry, as I’m sure you would, too. I’ve never been the type to not speak up, whether answering a teacher’s questions in class or bringing an issue to light, I’ve always found it pointless to not say what needs to be said.
If there’s anything I’ve learned from the last month or so, it’s that each of us has a voice and it’s up to us whether we decide to use it, and how.
My most popular Instagram posts of 2020 have a common theme: I spoke up. I told the truth about what I’ve been facing, about what wedding vendors have been facing, and abut what engaged couples have been facing (because this pandemic has unfairly targeted all of you, too).
And I wrote emails. A lot of emails, to a lot of people. I ended being interviewed on City TV, CTV, and Global CJOB. My posts on Instagram were shared well over 400 times. I had countless people reach out and say they would write their MLAs on our behalf (you have no idea how much gratitude I have to you!).
(I also had one woman reach out to say that she WAS sympathetic and was going to write her MLA on our industry’s behalf, until I made one small, negative remark about the government...that kind of fake support for small businesses is equivalent to saying “shop small” but only when Amazon isn’t more convenient. So you can feel free to keep your pretend support to yourself LS, because I don’t need it.)
I am grateful for the assistance of a few very helpful people, Dougald Lamont (Leader of the Liberal Party of Manitoba) and Wab Kinew (Leader of the NDP of Manitoba and Leader of the Official Opposition). My own MLA never bothered to respond to me, but I was so grateful for the kindness these men and their teams showed me and their willingness to bring our cause to the government. They recognized that the battle the wedding and event industry is fighting is a very serious one. A life or death one.
I also want to reassure my clients that I will be fine. Stone House Creative will be fine long term.
We are lucky that my husband’s work has been largely unaffected and so we are not in immediate danger. The challenge for us has “simply” been a matter of income loss.
The same is not true for many wedding professionals, however. Because of the seasonal nature of our business and the timing of when the pandemic hit, the wedding industry is in a uniquely challenging position. Many of us will essentially have been out of work (and out of pay) for 19 months. And I’ll tell you what, my husband is a financial planner and we make good financial decisions, but even we don’t have an emergency fund that can cover 19 months.
We’ve sort of won.
The province has widened the Bridge Grant eligibility criteria, so more people can access it. That’s a massive win. It’s not quite that clear cut, with businesses not necessarily able to get the full $5k, but I’m trying to be grateful that more businesses at least get something.
So, I guess that’s that…That was 2020.
Normally I like to tally up the number of roses I used in the year, or the locally grown stems, or something fun like that. This year, I wanted to highlight what I’ve learned instead — I’m not a person who is usually into this kind of stuff, but I think that everyone should have courage to say and do what needs to be done.
And maybe I’ll just wrap it all up with a look at some of 2020’s wedding bouquets!
I’ll be taking the rest of the year off! We’re kicking it off with my son’s 2nd birthday this weekend (yay! Birthday party for 3 people! haha) and then I’m looking forward to a slower, quieter Christmas than we usually have.
I hope that each of you finds blessings in the remainder of 2020. If you’re looking for something to do on Christmas Eve, I’d love to invite you to our church’s virtual service! It’s always uplifting and filled with great music and hope.
❤️